He's the one to always initiate, so I don't even feel bad. However, I believe that when a guy calls you babe, it does not always mean that he wants to date you. In the end the now wife told her that she was just 'keeping the bed warm', while she wasn't there. He told me he was sorry for all that happened he said I miss you. **** that. The love of your life is still sleeping with his Baby Mama. Me and him still have sex and she's still with him. Surely there's another. All the best beautiful mothers . I of course love him and I can't help it. If that is the case, men will use other cuter terms rather than sticking with the clichd ones." "It is my habit to call girls babe. He doesn't care about upsetting YOU, but God forbid SHE ever gets upset. I would have to say that his baby mama and kid(s) is a package deal to a certain extent because you would have to put up with her for as long as you are with him. We have kids here people. Wooo, some you ladies need to learn the game, y'all losing. Trust, If you truly love this dude then talk to your bd in private about the kids Men are very territorial and regardless if a woman has a bd or not they dont like other men talking to their women. I'm assuming you don't need him around financially. If he says it often enough, maybe she'll start calling him her . Our break-up was heated and intense. registered trademarks of Ziff Davis Canada, Inc. and may not be used by third parties without i ahte when they text late at night or just text when its not about the kid. She was upset with him because if any of his bm's call, he'd talk to them in her presence, but every time he called me or I called him, he left. He has some issues with him, Did u put him on child support ? When she knows that all she has to do is send . She uses my kid against me one minute and keeps him while shes ****ing with different guys but then tells me how.much she loves me . When considering what his body language is telling you it is important to look for a number of different signs in his body language. **** your feelings. He called too and they were clearly fighting in the background. I will always care/love him because he is my daughters father and that's it. Originally Posted by RoyalDanceQueen View Post, My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year now, he has a child with his ex but he told me their relationship ended long time ago. It would also be helpful to consider the type of relationship that you have with him when trying to understand why he called you mama. 13years in and I never betrayed his trust! Honestly, I would be interested as to why y'all haven't been able to meet one another. But you cant just put up with it in silence, its always better that you speak up and let him know if anything is bothering you. I realized that any anger a guy shows towards his child's mother is lost love a feeling of betrayal because he once loved her, it's best to foster love and respect for each other though regardless. I had just had a baby, so with the follow up appointments, we knew nothing was wrong with me, so he had to confess he crept around. He was incarcerated and he married for sex his BFF told me why didnt I make that happen for our kids at Least. Realistically if i didnt have a daughter with her i wouldnt mind her getting hit by a train. Sometimes it's hard for men and because they were in love, some fall in love and have children some people were never in love or had a form of puppy love, but if a deep emotional bond was created this can harbor bitter feelings and sadness for the dumped party either guy or girl. A lot of men find that Mama is a better alternative to nicknames like Baby, Babe, or Sweetie. The only time I normally remember my exwife is when I walk by an atm. and 2. he's never called me that before. Its hard to say for sure without asking, but I know for a fact some guys will say it as a way to test the waters! I'm pretty sue that if it was you in that position you would not be saying such things. This son of a bitch could have came in the toilet or on the floor but didnt so I have to live with the biggest mistake i ever made i regret the day i ever met him and if i could take it all back i would. I know for sure once he gets a girlfriend he won't spend as much time with his daughter because even if he wants her over he tells me to come too because I watch her while he play video games. Doesn't mean they are not over their ex. Stop blaming the man for you being too stupid to protect yourself. I'm in this same situation. Tell his baby mama. But it's weird, when he calls me by my name, I think he's mad at me LOL. Of course, you dont have to have children with him just because hes calling you his baby mama, but it is a sign that hes serious about you. It's important for kids! He Means it in a Romantic Way. Me and my baby mama have been separated for close to 1 yr n half our son is 2. Where do you fit into this mess? If you or someone close to you is currently in crisis or in an emergency situation, contact your local law enforcement agency or emergency number. But she doesn't know the half of it. Always asking me when Ima be home cause he's tired . I raised my son fine on my own; hes a great kid and that's who's really important. We had ALOT of attraction and chemistry, but absolutely no compatability. 3. Anyway he was hiding her they where going out to dinner together and the kids and I noticed the biggest diff when he was talking to her on a daily and he started doing way more then he ever did for them he ain't even do more for the other two he had with other ppl. You sound like you have other problems that need your attention. When it comes to infidelity, IMO men cheat physically, women cheats emotionlly and physically. This woman also has the personality and appearance of a terminally I'll cow, she has another fatherless child from a later disastrous relationship, she's permanently unemployed & her house looks like a scene from hoarders, I told him I don't feel comfortable with it and it's completely unnecessary & swore it wouldn't happen again, then recently I discovered that after he had dropped him to school he went to her house and stayed there for 2 hours, he even called me after he left and to say see, I dropped him off at school and went straight to the gym, what the hell does this all mean? Laninaconfusa 2 yr. ago. After awhile the interactions became flirty. In order to . No. Its certainly a term of endearment then. I was with my ex husband for 6 years,can I say 6 wasted years?? Would any of your bona fide exes buy you an apartment? He wants to run around , and be with multiple girls and imagine he gets one pregnant, they won't even hesitate to put him on childsupport .he'll be ****ed cause he ain't got a job. No man can trap you into being pregnant. If not dump him now. For some, its as simple as getting ALONG for the kids ONLY. He left for another girl And barely had anything to do with our daughter. Doesn't make any sense that he did that because he left me and our daughter for some new girl he met up at his work. I wasn't a great boyfriend for 6 yrs and then we had a child. If this is the case, then its a good thing! 32:47. I found he's having a BOY. He also told me at the beginning of February that he didn't want to have another kid, which was a deal breaker for me when we started dating because he knew I wanted more, but that he couldn't take care of the ones he has so this was why he changed his mind. My boyfriend has 2 baby mommas! To try to sum up what could be a culmination of mixed emotions may be impossible but you have to build that bridge to get across. He has broken so many promises to our daughter. Always try to have some patience and compassion as it's not an easy situation for the man to be in. She stayed in Honduras, whilst he set up a home for her and the baby. If its not about the kid (or kids), do they really need to talk like that? Girls that go with so called divorced guys make me sick their as **** as a brick and its embarrassing! Do I act crazy? Im gone. Telemedicine is a thing! If the relationship was toxic then this is how it can affect you. Between the two of them they are always arguing or in some fight every few days. Plus I learnt from him and his family that his ex treated him like sh*t. Well, I have a unique situation. Funny thing is, if whoever he's dealing with doesn't meet me, they're not shit. I'm in this same situation. His marriege was not based on love but more of a need for sex as he put it. have him smh I pretty sure thats what the first baby mama said bout me too before she officially moved on. I'd rather chop off my member and toss it in the tall grass to never be seen again than to entertain the thought of getting back with her. And miserable, angry, furious, and everything else. ~Signs to tell he still loves his baby momma ~. Miss Lucy called the doctor, Miss Lucy called the nurse. Nope. 3 years later later I still think about what I coulda done better. Its been almost 3yrs and i still havent met my boyfriends BM. I do feel you on this situation. They like ages between 21-25. Put your panties on and lay down the law. Maybe he just heard it and found it amusing, and dedcided to pass it on. Because its coming. I feel bad for you..my boyfriend was doing this..he would go shopping with them his ex and 7 yr old..go to all the school functions and never invite me..we were together 4 years and im sure he did it more than i knew..on the 5th year he was with her more ..after 7mos of the constant lies and telling me i was crazy for thinking he was messing around..the ex calls me..she tells me they have been out together and "tried having sex" but never did..so he wanted to be w me in the end.n i felt like ha **** he chose me! As a woman who didn't want a child, yet you are sleeping with random men-you had the choice of birth control OR not to sleep with a man you werent in a committed relationship with. And guess what? I've tried to reach out to her personally but she' doesn't seem to like me or goes and tells my bf that I've tried to contact her. I was awake and i'm pretty sure it was the name of his female coworker. He says its so she doesnt message me but sometimes I cant tell if thats the real reason why. Hanging out? So, I just got out of a 3 year relationship with a guy who has a child. Well when your boyfriend calls you "baby girl" it is just basically a pet name. He has a new woman and I Dnt interference am happy for him, me I haven't found mmthere right yet, and I'd never cheat or go back with my bby daddy as I look at him as a friend now father of my child nothing more, the thoughts iof ever having a intimate relationship sickens me. He was abusive during my pregnancy. I feel like I am [his second choice] but he tells me that he loves me and that I'm his one and only. I get along with her to show my son the right way to treat females. People are telling me that he will come back, but I do not know if I should be hopeful. However, when a strange man calls you baby, it can be just plain creepy. You don't have to be on welfare to access birth control. I always give him the benefit of the doubt because i want to trust him but is he really loyal to me? Why don't you upgrade to a nice stable upper class life? I don't love my son's mom anymore. I know that men dont tell their baby mom's or ex's anything, just let them be, try to be nice or civil for the kids, but sometimes these women need to get it through their brains that its over. (Solution). Log in to reply. There are a few indicators that you should keep an eye out for that can assist corroborate . Honestly? Now that's the baby momma. Talked to him later, "Is this like our engagement or? When I first met him he had a daughter , and was living with a female other than his daughters mother. Jealousy is normal: This other woman was a big part of your man's life at one point, and the fact that they share a child is a big deal. The term baby mama can be a term of endearment, but it can also be seen as offensive. explicit permission. She bareycan keep a job so Im wondering if he takes care of her in addition to paying child support. seek information on a wide variety of topics including African-American hair care, health issues, relationship She put him in the bathtub To see if he could swim. And I just looked him like you can't be serious ? For some, yes, maybe they didn't want the relationship to end and the break wasn't their choice. 1 in his romantic life, which doesnt seem to be the case right now. She says even if I have a girl she will come up and kiss me and she will always try to be with me. Honestly, I haven't been happy for the past 3 years deep down because i know this other woman will forever be in his life. Ask for FREE. But he's careless . My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 10 months. No, they just don't like the thought of his babies mom sucking another mans dick and his kids calling the new guy Dad. Dam, Jasmine. I don't know how my baby daddy feels about me. Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. I was once in a relationship with someone who has two kids. I am ****ed but guess what. I'm with them on that one as well. He wants to stay in her life . When they were together they thought they had something special like all young couples do. You arent wrong in feeling that, a person can only take so much, and patient and understanding for so long before someone pushes too far. He will untill he doesnt anymore. That's messed up. In order to hate a women that much their must be some unresolved issues of a love unmet! Meldee09 Follow. He should tell her to not call so late at night unless it's an emergency. Why do u think he's doing this family thing all of a sudden. I've been loyal to my husband! Don't be a sucker! This is a clear signal that he's really into you, wants a relationship, and is showing it by calling you baby. telling the truth I am going through the same thing, but mine is multiple. Based on what you have said, it appears that you may be an unknowing other woman. I found this post as I was looking to try and understand why my ex baby daddy was texting me that he wanted to get back together when he's in a relationship and to my knowledge has been in a relationship with the girl he cheatred on me with. I'm just a honest guy who doesn't play games and I want a good woman to be with that I can trust. Just know that you are perfectly fine. Im in a similar situation right now, I m still in love but feel like if I can't get past this, the love on one end will come to an end. Best thing you can do is end it and walk away. Yes, if she finds out he's cheating, she will separate and go elsewhere (even though according to him, she's only staying with him because she had nowhere else to gosee any inconsistency in his story there???). You made the right choice, even if he was being honest and said he didnt have a drop of love left for her, he said he did because of so and so. I call my boyfriend heartbeat and he call me mama sometimes he change and call me queen. My boyfriend cheated on me with his baby mama and now she is pregnant but I still love him HELP!! U see i have a thing. Unless you a have a child. Takiya Savage. A local ATL radio personality, Traci Steele, has a son with Chris Brown's DJ, DJ Babey Drew. As I moved on with the next guy for about four mouths , I end up dropping him and going back to my original guy from the start , the one I have history with. But trying to hold on to something that hurt me was a huge mistake. Bf's baby mama wants him back and she's trying all the means to get him back. It's popular, but that doesn't make it less meaningful. **** her I took care of her 9 years and have a 7 year old with her and she became a cold blooded killer after hanging out with her hoe friends could care less its me and my son time to go find a dime piece. What some men do is have a hoe on the side and pump her up but it's rare if he'll ever marry her. Im asking because my bf has a child and the bm comes with all sorts of drama. Because the sex is amazing and its something we both want. I get wanting to soend time with his kids but does this mean hes playing me? About a week after he was texting me that he needs me, he loves me and wed be in each others arms soon. Check Yourself. help? This is especially true in the sense that your co-parent, if not on good terms with you,and in some cases, still in love with you, could be a major impediment to future relationships. Let not mention that bum(honestly speaking). Your bm had a profound effect on you. but then he made another girl pregnant, and has chosen me over her. Guys follow me always did always will I will never follow them! Bounce out baby. Understand and keep this in the forefront of your mindit's not about you or your relationship with your man. During 1st couple years was on and off with my bby daddy, after we realised were better going our separate ways to avoid arguments sake ect. Of course she thinks he was single and I made the mistake of contacting her after I found out about his cheating but naturally she believes him. Be it though I was in a relationship myself at the time with my other two children father. Got intertwined with one another and nothing else seemed to matter to them. If your boyfriend is confident, charming, and persuasive, you might think you've hit the jackpot. It's been almost 4 years since we've split up and I think about her all the time. But I'm getting to a point where I've started to feel disrespected. What does it take to stop running into these types of people? He thought I was cheating, which I never did. He hasn't seen our daughter since I found out the reason why he left. Because even if shecant be No.